…. the place of the brain in choosing a life partner.
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Marriage is an event that many singles look forward to; they have a picture of how they want their marital relationship to look like. They relish the imagination of a beautiful marital future devoid of the challenges they saw in their parents’ and other people’s marriage: they therefore have an out of these world picture of the future.
However, these singles carry a measure of fear in them; by their actions you can see that though they desire the best in their marital future, yet there is unease in them that it will not come to reality and because of this some of them go an extra mile to be sure that they are involved with the right partner. They go looking for men with the ability to see into the future; these men include Prophets, Alfas and witch doctors depending on the belief that the single uphold. These men come up with declaration of the future; either promising a bright future that will encourage such singles to go on with the relationship or a future of gloom that produces the opposite result.
A lady came to me for counseling over a foretelling message that she got from three men with this gift; two of them talked of a turbulent beginning but a bright future while the last gave the inverted version of what the others told her. She came to me in confusion and I gave my counsel over the matter (I don’t have the gift of foretelling neither do I condemn those that have.).
After being involved with singles for some time now, I have found out that there is an increasing number of singles looking for foretellers now than ever before. I want to slap you on the face with these truth; men who foretell are human who are susceptible to making mistakes. A Yoruba adage says, ‘ise eniyan oun tan lara eniyan’; George Adegboye best explains these by saying, ‘The best of a man is man at his best; he is not God.’ It implies that human irrespective of their ability to do great things can still go into error because of the human tendency to make mistakes. Like I said in a singles meeting that I spoke in; I told the singles that if they allow a foreteller make them get married to the wrong partner, they will live with the consequence of their mistakes all by themselves and that goes for you too.
I can’t tell enough in this article couples who live with regrets for making a choice of a partner based on another person’s prediction or because they had a ‘spiritual’ experience that they responded to without using their God given brains.
When I talk about the brain here, I am not referring to that piece of fleshy bundle of mass in your skull. Rather I am referring to the part of your soul called your mind: the human race was endowed with a unique ability- to make logical deductions out of facts that are on ground. He has the ability to reason and extract facts from the information that is obvious and available to him. I heard a true life story of a lady that went to look for men with the gift of foretelling about two men that was seeking her hand in marriage, the one that wasn’t favored by the foretellers was who she got married too and today she is happy that she made that decision. She made the choice of a partner based on calculated deduction from the facts she knew about the guys.
I am not belittling the role of foretellers, but there is a need for you to observe the word of Jesus; he said ‘watch and pray…’ It implies that you should be observant, sensitive, and discerning on any issue of life before taking a step in that direction. When it comes to getting married, I believe that the brain shouldn’t be made to go into a latent state. It should equally play an active role in the decision making process, than shut it out by ‘spiritual’ experience that one has or the foretelling by others.
Let me show you how the human brain can be used; if a man for instance want to choose amongst the women in his life who he can get married too, what he need do is check out the qualities these women have without being emotional. He should examine their character, emotional reactions, the company they keep, their dependency level, etc. From this he will be able to make to a great degree an accurate deduction of who he can spend the rest if his life with. The same goes for the woman.
Marriage is an event that many singles look forward to; they have a picture of how they want their marital relationship to look like. They relish the imagination of a beautiful marital future devoid of the challenges they saw in their parents’ and other people’s marriage: they therefore have an out of these world picture of the future.
However, these singles carry a measure of fear in them; by their actions you can see that though they desire the best in their marital future, yet there is unease in them that it will not come to reality and because of this some of them go an extra mile to be sure that they are involved with the right partner. They go looking for men with the ability to see into the future; these men include Prophets, Alfas and witch doctors depending on the belief that the single uphold. These men come up with declaration of the future; either promising a bright future that will encourage such singles to go on with the relationship or a future of gloom that produces the opposite result.
A lady came to me for counseling over a foretelling message that she got from three men with this gift; two of them talked of a turbulent beginning but a bright future while the last gave the inverted version of what the others told her. She came to me in confusion and I gave my counsel over the matter (I don’t have the gift of foretelling neither do I condemn those that have.).
After being involved with singles for some time now, I have found out that there is an increasing number of singles looking for foretellers now than ever before. I want to slap you on the face with these truth; men who foretell are human who are susceptible to making mistakes. A Yoruba adage says, ‘ise eniyan oun tan lara eniyan’; George Adegboye best explains these by saying, ‘The best of a man is man at his best; he is not God.’ It implies that human irrespective of their ability to do great things can still go into error because of the human tendency to make mistakes. Like I said in a singles meeting that I spoke in; I told the singles that if they allow a foreteller make them get married to the wrong partner, they will live with the consequence of their mistakes all by themselves and that goes for you too.
I can’t tell enough in this article couples who live with regrets for making a choice of a partner based on another person’s prediction or because they had a ‘spiritual’ experience that they responded to without using their God given brains.
When I talk about the brain here, I am not referring to that piece of fleshy bundle of mass in your skull. Rather I am referring to the part of your soul called your mind: the human race was endowed with a unique ability- to make logical deductions out of facts that are on ground. He has the ability to reason and extract facts from the information that is obvious and available to him. I heard a true life story of a lady that went to look for men with the gift of foretelling about two men that was seeking her hand in marriage, the one that wasn’t favored by the foretellers was who she got married too and today she is happy that she made that decision. She made the choice of a partner based on calculated deduction from the facts she knew about the guys.
I am not belittling the role of foretellers, but there is a need for you to observe the word of Jesus; he said ‘watch and pray…’ It implies that you should be observant, sensitive, and discerning on any issue of life before taking a step in that direction. When it comes to getting married, I believe that the brain shouldn’t be made to go into a latent state. It should equally play an active role in the decision making process, than shut it out by ‘spiritual’ experience that one has or the foretelling by others.
Let me show you how the human brain can be used; if a man for instance want to choose amongst the women in his life who he can get married too, what he need do is check out the qualities these women have without being emotional. He should examine their character, emotional reactions, the company they keep, their dependency level, etc. From this he will be able to make to a great degree an accurate deduction of who he can spend the rest if his life with. The same goes for the woman.
